in conclusion... for men, and those who love them
Over the past month, we’ve peeled back layers that society taught men to cover.
Dearest Gentle Reader,
Over the past month, we’ve peeled back layers that society taught men to cover.
In Issue 1, we began by asking why men don’t cry, unearthing the truth that emotional expression isn’t weakness. Read it here.
In Issue 2, we reminded ourselves that toughness doesn’t mean emotional numbness, and that strength must make room for softness. Click here to read Issue 2.
Issue 3 explored the armour of “I’m fine,” and how it too often conceals the emotional wreckage underneath. Read Issue 3 here.
Issue 4 exposed how performing masculinity to be “man enough” only distances men from themselves and others. Read this Issue here.
In Issue 5, we examined how many boys are rushed into manhood without the inner tools to stay whole. Click here to read Issue 5.
Issue 6 confronted the epidemic of male loneliness, which isn't just being alone, but feeling unknown, unseen, and unheard. Read it here.
Issue 7 tackled the myth of perfectionism and how it haunts men with the fear of never being enough. Read more here.
In Issue 8, we explored the painful dissonance of being praised for competence while privately fading under the pressure. You can read more here.
And in Issue 9, we addressed the hustle culture that many men use to escape rather than heal. Read here.
Issue 10 showed us that support often comes too late—often after the mental breakdown, suicide or funeral. Learn more here.
In Issue 11, we confronted the emotional distance of fatherhood, and how silence becomes inherited. Learn more here.
Issue 12 spoke to the shame men feel when they fall short of societal expectations as providers. Click to read this issue.
Issue 13 challenged men to build friendships beyond banter. It beckoned men to go deeper, speak truth, and strive to be seen. Don't be left out—read here.
Issue 14 held up a painful mirror to how men are often only celebrated posthumously. We asked: Why must a man die to get his flowers? Find out more here.
In Issue 15, we tackled the fear and yearning many men feel toward intimacy—desiring connection but unsure how to hold it. Read this issue here.
Issue 16 unpacked the hidden weight of being the “therapist friend,” and how emotional caretaking without reciprocity slowly burns a man out. Click here to read more.
In Issue 17, we explored how friendships can either save or starve a man’s soul, and how connection is a balm, but only if it’s real. Learn more here.
Issue 18 reclaimed the beauty of platonic male affection, the kind that nourishes without condition. Read more here.
Issue 19 challenged us to rethink accountability—not as shame, but as love-in-action. Find out more here.
Issue 20 exposed why many men struggle with asking for help, and how silence often masks deep suffering. Binge here.
Issue 21 reminded us that anxiety in men is real, even if it shows up as anger or overachievement. Read here.
In Issue 22, we told the truth that depression doesn’t always look like sadness—it can be masked, hidden, and misnamed. Learn more here.
Issue 23 broke the myth that there’s only one way to be a man. We affirmed that masculinity is not a rigid code but a personal journey. Catch up on it here.
In Issue 24, we examined how faith and spirituality can become tools of healing when they’re rooted in grace, not guilt. Learn about it here.
Issue 25 was a mirror, a self-check letter to the man each of us is becoming. It reminded us that growth is not loud or performative—it’s quiet, consistent, and deeply personal. You can read about it here.
And finally, in Issue 26, we closed with the boys—the next generation—asking ourselves what kind of men we are modelling, and what kind of messages we’re handing down. Read more here.
All of these live in the story of manhood. But we don’t have to keep telling the same version.
To the men reading this: your healing matters. Your softness is not your shame. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to feel. You are allowed to be complicated, tender, and unfinished. You are not alone. You are not behind. You are becoming. And that is something to celebrate every day.
And to the women: be gentler with the men around you. Your father, your brother, your son, your partner, your friend, and your colleagues are all carrying stories they were never allowed to tell. Let your love be a place they can exhale. Don’t wait until a man breaks to offer him softness. Don’t give him his flowers only at his burial. Water the men around you with kindness, patience, and presence. It will change everything.
Because a healed man is a safer man. A more loving man. A freer man. And our communities, homes, and children need more of him.
—Jaachịmmá Anyatọnwụ
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Thank you Sir, for doing this!
Chukwu gozie gi!