Jaachi, I had friends. Friends I'd call, check up on but they never reciprocated. I have chosen to let them go. It's better to be alone than looking for the commitment they don't know how to give.
I agree! Their well is just too empty to fill you. Thank you so much for this piece. Since I decidd to stop explaining how I want to be loved, I've felt peace.
A good friend of mine is not happy that I write about Biafra, especially when I wrote a full essay about Biafra that was published in a US press. He is Ijaw. I was surprised by his disapproval. He says he is anti-Biafra. That's fine. I tried to explain that I write about Biafra because it calls me. I do not just wake up in the morning and decide what to write. I'm very very lazy, until the spirit comes to fight with me. I tried to explain that I'm not necessarily in need of secession. I'm interested in human stories that are rarely talked about, and it happens that I have written a few things about Biafra. But man isn't getting it. We're still friends. Everyday he sends me tweets of people antagonizing Biafra. Since I discovered he is never going to understand that I'm more of a storyteller than a political activist, I stopped explaining. When he sends me tweets on WhatsApp, I just read.
It is interesting how people can mistake storytelling for activism, but it sounds like you have found the best way to handle the situation by prioritising your peace and your craft.
Jaachi, I had friends. Friends I'd call, check up on but they never reciprocated. I have chosen to let them go. It's better to be alone than looking for the commitment they don't know how to give.
Thank you for the reminder.
Thank you for sharing that.
It can be difficult to let go, but choosing solitude over unreciprocated effort is often necessary for our well-being.
And I am glad the piece served as a helpful reminder.
I agree! Their well is just too empty to fill you. Thank you so much for this piece. Since I decidd to stop explaining how I want to be loved, I've felt peace.
I am so glad to hear that you have found peace. Choosing to stop explaining yourself is a powerful step toward protecting your own energy.
Thank you for reading and sharing, V.
A good friend of mine is not happy that I write about Biafra, especially when I wrote a full essay about Biafra that was published in a US press. He is Ijaw. I was surprised by his disapproval. He says he is anti-Biafra. That's fine. I tried to explain that I write about Biafra because it calls me. I do not just wake up in the morning and decide what to write. I'm very very lazy, until the spirit comes to fight with me. I tried to explain that I'm not necessarily in need of secession. I'm interested in human stories that are rarely talked about, and it happens that I have written a few things about Biafra. But man isn't getting it. We're still friends. Everyday he sends me tweets of people antagonizing Biafra. Since I discovered he is never going to understand that I'm more of a storyteller than a political activist, I stopped explaining. When he sends me tweets on WhatsApp, I just read.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
It is interesting how people can mistake storytelling for activism, but it sounds like you have found the best way to handle the situation by prioritising your peace and your craft.
Hello Isaac, I know an online magazine looking for stories like yours. Lounloun. I'd look for the link and send it to your DM if you're interested.